Much of my attitude over the years towards the Muslims I’ve met has been – let’s see how much I can teach you in the shortest amount of time possible. Only in the last few years have I been open to learning things from them. I’ve come to believe that it’s in the place of wide-eyed, open-hearted discussion that they will, in fact, learn the most from me anyway. The more open I am to them (honestly open), the more they will be open to hear what I’m saying and thus learn from me. It’s human nature 101.
So with that in mind, here are five things that all of us can learn from a Muslim. There are many more, of course, but these are the first five that come to mind.
1. Pro-family. I remember one of the first times I spoke with an Arab Muslim friend about how we send our kids off to college in other states, many times 1000 miles or more away from our home. We do it because we want to “teach them to grow up and be independent.” My friend was horrified. “Why would you do such a thing to your kid,” he said. “Don’t you love them?”
The Muslim way is to keep your kids as close to home for as long of time as possible. They go to the University closest to home. When they graduate, they get a job in the same city and they begin building their own house – on top of dad and mom’s.
Muslim families are not perfect. Not by any stretch. They are still people, men and women, with passions and selfishness that tear them apart just like here in the West. But you will never see divorce lawyers advertising their services on TV. My kids who grew up in Lebanon, never had a single friend from a broken family – now, here in the States, many of their friends are kids of single parents.
Pro-family values are the norm in the Muslim world. Abortion happens, but is socially taboo. The words “same-sex marriage” are not even thought of, let alone heard. James Dobson would be a hero there.
We can learn a lot about family values from our Muslim friends.