It is popular today, especially in places like schools and in the youth services where psychological understandings of self rule the day, to talk about the character of young people and the values that must be instilled in them before they become adults. The goal, if I may be allowed to simplify things a bit, is to make sure that our young people are nice before they become old enough to suffer the consequences for not being nice. Along with this argument is a call for adults to role model what it means to be nice; a call, in my opinion, that is largely put into practice with a “do as I say, not as I do” philosophy.
I am convinced that contemporary notions of “character” and “role modeling” are deeply flawed and those that promote these ideas are generally doing more harm than good, but that is not the point of this post; the point here is not even if these ideas were sound, they would still be insufficient and far down the totem pole of usefulness for those seeking to assist youth in the process of striving to be the types of people they were made to become.
As C.S. Lewis has said, “We must not suppose that if we succeeded in making everyone nice we should have saved their souls. A world of nice people, content in their own niceness, looking no further, turned away from God, would be just as desperately in need of salvation as a miserable world.”
I am convinced that contemporary notions of “character” and “role modeling” are deeply flawed and those that promote these ideas are generally doing more harm than good, but that is not the point of this post; the point here is not even if these ideas were sound, they would still be insufficient and far down the totem pole of usefulness for those seeking to assist youth in the process of striving to be the types of people they were made to become.
As C.S. Lewis has said, “We must not suppose that if we succeeded in making everyone nice we should have saved their souls. A world of nice people, content in their own niceness, looking no further, turned away from God, would be just as desperately in need of salvation as a miserable world.”