Nothing is less romantic than the typical canned-ham version of romance offered every February 14th. Chocolates + roses + stuffed bear + reservation at the Olive Garden = one lame night. I say forget about commercialized "love" and skip Valentine's Day altogether. Instead, just have a date night, at home (you'd be crazy to go out and fight the crowds), with your spouse.
Here are a few ideas to help you do something creative ...
Cook dinner at home. Light some candles and make your own dinner. You can go all out with a three-course meal, complete with salad, entree, and dessert, or just keep simple. Just think of it as a nice Saturday, not Valentine's Day, and nobody will be disappointed when there isn't a teddy bear the size of a small child presented as a gift.
Give a gift of yourself, not of stuff. The best gifts aren't manufactured, shipped, purchased, and brought home. Despite the best efforts of some shrewd marketers out there, Valentine's Day is not a good enough reason in itself to break out the check book and start buying up jewelry, stuffed animals of any kind, or a heart-shaped anything. If you have your heart set on showing your love through a gift, make it an experience. Like to cook? Refer to tip #1 above, enjoy a fabulous home-cooked meal. But if cooking isn't your thing, no sweat; maybe you're an aspiring musician, write a song and serenade your girl; if the written word is your thing, then perhaps some origional poetry can help you express your love. Nothing is says, "I love you" more than giving yourself away.