Sexual Detox

Tim Challies has put together two guides, one for married men and another for single men, focused on the Biblical position on sex and applying that truth to a several important peripheral issues (pornography, addiction, masturbation, and so on).

Below is a spinet, directed at married men, that I especially appreciated. If husbands who struggle with pornography can come to see pornography in this way, as a sin that is radically changing their hearts and minds (even the way in which they look and feel for their wives), then I think it will mark a first step toward conquering this sin. Here's what Challies writes:

(Pornography) has reshaped your mind and your heart in certain ways, and has even shaped your understanding of your own wife! You are looking at her through the eyes of a pornographer! Would you want Hugh Hefner staring at your wife’s body, looking it up and down? And yet there you are looking at her through his eyes—through the eyes he and others like him have given you through your consumption of their pornography.

What you need to do is to borrow God’s eyes and prepare yourself to look at your wife through that lens, through that filter. You need to replace lies with truth. And God has given you the Bible so you can do just that. Through the Bible we are able to borrow God’s eyes and to see the world as he sees it.

You can download these two resources in e-book form for free:

Sexual Detox: A Guide for the Single Guy

Sexual Detox: A Guide for the Married Guy

HT: Challies