The Bible consistently and explicitly lays upon parents the primary responsibility for teaching and modeling God's truths to children. It is crucial that there be a clear understanding of the primary role parents have in the training of children, so that the biblical responsibility given to parents is not ignored and
laid on the church.
The most striking thing is that parents are constantly charged with the primary responsibility for the training of their children. The great command of the Bible is to “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might” (
Deuteronomy 6:5; see also
Matthew 22:37). These words “shall be on your heart” (
Deuteronomy 6:6). Then Moses tells us, “and you shall teach them diligently to your children and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up” (
Deuteronomy 6:7; see also
Deuteronomy 11:18-21).
There are at least two implications from these verses. First, Moses teaches adults the Word of God, and the adults are then expected to pass it on to their children. Second, adults will only be effective teachers if these words are “on their heart.” If these words are on their hearts, adults will be able to teach their children in every situation of life, whether they are sitting, walking, or lying down. This point is utterly crucial. What parents end up teaching children is what they (parents) treasure and love. If they love God with all their hearts, they will seek to instill that love to their children in every situation which arises. Therefore, the most important thing the church can do for children is to trumpet a vision of God and nurture adults in the wisdom of the Scriptures.
But then, the question must be asked of parents, "Parents, what's on your heart?" What are your actions, habits, and priorities teaching your children? Does the way you live your life lead your children to an understanding of what it means to pick up your cross daily and deny your-self? Does your life tell your children that God is everything to you? Or does your life say to your children that God is an afterthought - He's who you go to when you have time? Maybe it's time that you ask yourself, "Could it be that I'm more SELF-conscious than God-conscious?"
Or better yet, maybe it's time for church leaders to start asking that question to the members of their own congregations. The church does a great disservice to families when they don't call out parents, in a loving way, about the way they're living their lives. It's a sad fact that the church today fears offending people more than anything, and so church leaders make excuses for parents like, "They would come to Sunday School, but they're really busy" or "They used to serve, but they're going through a lot right now." Both statements may be true, but if those patterns go on year after year, then maybe it's not a busyness issue, maybe it's a spiritual issue. Churches all over the country are sending people to Hell with a smile and a cup of coffee simply because the leaders don't want to offend anyone - and that may be greatest offense of all.
Parents search your hearts. Evaluate your lives. Try to discern what lessons you are implicitly teaching your children each and everyday by the choices you make and the words you use. Strive to live for Christ. Teach your children the gospel not only from God's Word, but also from the way you live. And make no mistake, your children are watching you. Be a model of Christ's love to them. Take up your cross in your home daily, deny your SELF, and lead your kids to Christ.